The Importance of A Support System


Its 2018 and GOD has been pushing me to share so much. Before, i’d always be hesitant and keep things that are important to myself. Why? I was afraid of backlash or being told “ you talk too much”. Then I said to myself, listen you’ve got something to say and someone desperately needs to hear it.

Some time ago, a notification popped on my phone and it said, “Someone’s breakthrough is locked up in the testimony that you’re ashamed to tell”. Thank You Sprinkle of Jesus! After seeing that, I realized that I must share instead of hiding. After all, isn’t that why I started my blog in the first place.

Any-who, within the first couple of months of this year I’ve learned so much about the importance of a support system. Many people fail to realize that having a good support system can truly impact you! Having a real support system helps you mentally, emotionally and in your overall well being as a human being. I like to believe that God didn’t just create one human being but multiple. Ever understood why God created Eve out of Adam? Adam needed a helpmate. He couldn’t do it all alone! (Yes, this whole brother and sister keeper thing goes way deeper than we think)

If you may or may not know, I graduated college two months ago. As my graduation was slowly approaching I invited a couple of family and friends. This was a very important milestone for me and all I wanted was to have my close friends and family around me. I wanted to show them how much hard work I had put in for the last 4 years. Unfortunately, only 2 people showed up.  I know this might sound harsh but I was truly upset that that only 2 people decided to come. Yes, I was appreciative of those two but I expected to have more people there. It disappointed and made me realize that even though I always support people, I don’t always get that same love in return. Now although I had completed school for myself, I would have been happy with having people support me. Sadly, it dampened my spirits and I wasn’t 100% able to enjoy my Graduation.

I recently began to pay attention to things around me. Such as close friends, family and yes even acquaintances. I am usually one to get excited about an idea or plan. Unfortunately, not everyone shares in your joy. This urged me to pick out those who say good comments and those who say bad comments. I started to pay attention to what people would say “negative vibes”. I realized that some people around me didn’t see the value of me as an individual and would compete with me in my absence.  I also started to see that people who I didn’t know or rarely spoke to would support me more than those around me. Being that I am such a nice person, I always see the good in people until someone put me in check and said “Barbara, stop it, not everyone will support you”. After having this conversation with this close friend of mine I realized that I needed to be more conscious of the energy that is around me.

It’s not just about being physical there for someone but emotionally as well. It’s important to check in with those who you care about. Yes, life gets in the way but being selfish doesn’t get you anywhere either. For those who know me, know that I support them 100%. Its important to support your small cohort. Whether they are starting a local business or having an event. A little click or share can make a difference.

Also, its okay if you have to let go of those toxic careless friends of yours. It doesn’t matter if you’ve known them for 8+ years. If they aren’t moving up the ladder with you then they’ve gots to go! I know this may be difficult and it doesn’t happen overnight but value those who value you!


      Zara Top and Skirt | Payless Mules



  1. August 6, 2018 / 4:46 pm

    Yes! I totally agree with leaving toxic friends behind. I’ve always struggled with keeping and maintaining friendships with others. I always felt like I was putting in more time and energy but once I started putting myself first. I saw a major change in my mood. I truly appreciate the small circle I have now. It might not be as big but I know I can depend on them to show up and be there! This post was amazing! I’ve already shared on my twitter! Love the blog btw

    • bpsench
      August 8, 2018 / 5:54 am

      Thank you for the support and im glad you were able to relate 🙂

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